Japan's lack of interest in sex and intimacy

I found this article fascinating. It gave me a Philip K. Dick/William Gibson futurist impression where the idea of intimacy and sexual relationships are outweighed by career goals and replaced with cybertech.

http://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/oct/20/young-people-japan-stopped-having-sex

"Aoyama cites one man in his early 30s, a virgin, who can't get sexually aroused unless he watches female robots on a game similar to Power Ranger."

this is kind of inevitable in a society where common sexual fetishes are so far removed from reality.

  On 10/29/2013 at 2:44 PM, paranerd said:

I found this article fascinating. It gave me a Philip K. Dick/William Gibson futurist impression where the idea of intimacy and sexual relationships are outweighed by career goals and replaced with cybertech.

 

http://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/oct/20/young-people-japan-stopped-having-sex

shit I feel like that now.

though I think I have always rated sexual activity a bit lower than others.

Porn is ruining everyone's life.

good to hear, i hate the macho baloney about how getting laid is the most important thing. getting strapped with kids is a huge burden, it's kind of insane that society pushes you in that direction. if you have a great partner, then great, but getting laid for the sake of it just leads to you gettting the baggage of baby mama drama and maybe herpes before you meet a good partner, and it possibly thwarts that good relationship.

the obvious fix for this is a stay at home husband. it's the culture and expectations that's causing the issue here not the people.

http://kotaku.com/wrong-about-japan-and-sex-1450567428

It's good to know there's someplace on earth where my life would be sort of normal. Bring on the pleasure droids.

Send me over there. There will be no lack of Japanese chicks getting boned... they just need to form a line.

(sent by an oversexed American using tapabang from an ASUS laptop)

I am not surprised.

My theory:

More internet - less birth rates.

Afri^wFew internet - higher birth rate

overpopulation is self regulating, or at least it will be.

gosh it's so unlike the press to selectively use facts to invent a story.

Birthrates are an issue in a lot of wealthy countries, this is a weirdly xenophobic spin to put on that.

Umm. .. Wasn't there another article recently that put to bed the idea that there's little sex going on in Japan. Seemed to knock down all the claims.

(yeah i did the pun on purpose, it's my version of a sexy time).

  On 10/29/2013 at 5:45 PM, delet... said:

Umm. .. Wasn't there another article recently that put to bed the idea that there's little sex going on in Japan. Seemed to knock down all the claims.

 

 

 

 

 

(yeah i did the pun on purpose, it's my version of a sexy time).

Interesting! There are stats referenced in the article, but I didn't look them up yet.

As a Tokyo born half Japanese, half Irish now living in the states, I can name about 3 key factors to this.

The way society is built up. (the education system, juku... the school afterschool, how it's pretty much study study study, testing, quizzing, drilling, working, work, work, work. It's pretty common for the father in the house to be pretty much non existant in the household. Since they work all day and stay late, more often than not go out with clients or coworkers to drink.)

Japanese are close minded and tend to keep 'emotional' or 'deep' things/thoughts to themselves. Anything sad/bad/ or tragic that happens to say a family member is kept quite and hush hush. Talk is usually very straightforward and bland and people rarely go deep.

And then there's the people like me. Otaku, who are generally only interested in whatever 'thing' or hobby it is that they have. Most otaku are in the anime category. Like I used to (got bored) do, collect figurines, bed sheets and body pillows with their favorite characters on them. The doujin (hentai) manga writers and illustrators I talk to via twitter are all pretty fucking horny (and willing to have sex, seriously they are obsessed)... it's just that they're all mostly shut ins and spend all day drawing, masturbating, and on the web. They can't actually get out and approach or talk to any women. The closest they get to that is tweeting after coming home from grocery shopping at 7 11 saying, "Ahh the girl at the register was pretty cute..."

Obsessively buy 30 copies of the same erotic visual novel game (eroge) about lolis or big breast carnage 2, spend all day everyday tinkering with machines/gear, manga artists, animators, work ridiculous hours to get their work done.

Eveything is tight, busy, and done with little deep thinking.

Though I'm not really sure about the otaku thing because I myself love both 2d and 3d girls. And I hope to meet someone special, get married, have a family, etc.

Though my mentality is the polar opposite from a typical Japanese, because of the fact that I moved here mid elementary but also because my other half isn't and I've grown up with non japanese relatives and such.

It's weird it's like I'm seeing them from the outside, from the other side of the glass pane.

These are just my thoughts though. They're not the most flamboyant people on this earth. It's just the way they are. But they still sex and date and all.

  On 10/29/2013 at 3:40 PM, very honest said:

good to hear, i hate the macho baloney about how getting laid is the most important thing. getting strapped with kids is a huge burden, it's kind of insane that society pushes you in that direction. if you have a great partner, then great, but getting laid for the sake of it just leads to you gettting the baggage of baby mama drama and maybe herpes before you meet a good partner, and it possibly thwarts that good relationship.

Agreed. I used to feel peer pressure about "getting lucky", but I think it's overrated bullshit. I figure if it happens, it happens, but I'm not gonna make it a goal for someone else's sake.

Also, being celibate doesn't necessarily make one an otaku or a recluse. I'm sure there's plenty of youth throughout the world who have vibrant social lives but engage in minimal or no coitus. My philosophy is do what's right for you.

Yes, but don't underestimate the value of (and sometimes necessity) for intimate contact. Fucking is good for your soul. It is very cathartic.

I'm not so sure this planet can sustain the current population growth so I think it's not necessarily bad in the grand scheme of things. I tell myself I'm not interested in sex and intimacy but the simple truth is..

....I'm terrible at getting laid

  On 10/29/2013 at 9:29 PM, Ifeelspace said:

I'm not so sure this planet can sustain the current population growth so I think it's not necessarily bad in the grand scheme of things. I tell myself I'm not interested in sex and intimacy but the simple truth is..

 

 

....I'm terrible at getting laid

My philosophy is: Do what feels horribly wrong for you.

I like sex only ironically.

I iron sex I like.

  On 10/29/2013 at 9:35 PM, Friendly Foil said:

My philosophy is: Do what feels horribly wrong for you.

Warning: Potential arousal detected

Modern day neoliberal nihilism/narcissism based in marketing and advertising and thus in the ethics of hardcore pornography has managed to popularize the weak minded idea that sex is more important than connection and that romance is a myth and that only fucking and promiscuity leading to business-marriage makes sense.

I'm enlightened. Nice try you fucking weak minded ad zombie motherfuckers.