Intelligence, Social skills, Cynicism, Self importance

hey man all is cool

I generally stay out of threads like these, for reasons because they seem to make matters worse. If I was depressed I would try to stay out of the depression thread etc etc

anyway I'm off

Have a good night beer boss. :)

lol @ social skills on display in this thread

  On 1/15/2015 at 9:19 AM, azatoth said:

Sorry, since your arrival you just rubbed me the wrong way from the get go with some of the stuff you first posted.

The "primacy effect" (aka serial position effect).

First impressions count!

Stepheng, you don't have to explain yourself, I believe you. You only have to (emotionally) understand that other people have different perspectives/perceptions and respond from a different mindset than yours. I know you already understand this logically, but the fact is you're still trying to explain yourself, while the point is the opposite: to understand other perspectives. That helps against calling other people fucking losers, for instance. Because living in a world of fucking losers is not much fun now, would it?

Edit: wow youve made a lot of posts while i was typing this one ....

  On 1/15/2015 at 9:30 AM, goDel said:

Stepheng, you don't have to explain yourself, I believe you. You only have to (emotionally) understand that other people have different perspectives/perceptions and respond from a different mindset than yours. I know you already understand this logically, but the fact is you're still trying to explain yourself, while the point is the opposite: to understand other perspectives. That helps against calling other people fucking losers, for instance. Because living in a world of fucking losers is not much fun now, would it?

I had a shitty childhood where I was beat a lot and I had to do a lot of explaining for self validation etc, I certainly wasn't receiving it elsewhere...

I guess I haven't gotten over that yet. lol.

I hear you though, loud and clear.

  On 1/15/2015 at 9:30 AM, goDel said:

 

Edit: wow youve made a lot of posts while i was typing this one ....

srry buddy =(

  On 1/15/2015 at 9:32 AM, StephenG said:

 

  On 1/15/2015 at 9:30 AM, goDel said:

Stepheng, you don't have to explain yourself, I believe you. You only have to (emotionally) understand that other people have different perspectives/perceptions and respond from a different mindset than yours. I know you already understand this logically, but the fact is you're still trying to explain yourself, while the point is the opposite: to understand other perspectives. That helps against calling other people fucking losers, for instance. Because living in a world of fucking losers is not much fun now, would it?

 

I had a shitty childhood where I was beat a lot and I had to do a lot of explaining for self validation etc, I certainly wasn't receiving it elsewhere...

 

I guess I haven't gotten over that yet. lol.

 

I hear you though, loud and clear.

It's ok.

I can recommend some books which might help:

http://www.amazon.com/Children-Self-Absorbed-Grown-Ups-Getting-Narcissistic/dp/1572245611

http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Parents-Overcoming-Hurtful-Reclaiming/dp/0553381407

The second is especially helpful on giving a better perspective on your childhood experiences. The first is more of a plan with concrete steps etc.

Not sure if trolling.

!? I wasnt.

Just checking! Thanks for the links, I will check them out.

I wouldn't trust that smile.

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Squimptibulum gerblegank roshiliyabo certumbiterate virtriculatory navoinfortitude

Deep inside and without wanting to in any way, I do feel superior than the others. It's like some social reflex, I don't know. I'm always working on it while in company of mates, colleagues, family, etc... Reminding myself that they're awesome people, that no, I shoudn't throw at them that jibe I have in mind. It's only a matter of seconds, even milliseconds, like the very first thing you think when meeting someone that you immediately hide under a carpet for the longer time possible. Like a flash of impure and mean thoughts.

And this does makes me feel insecure! I really like people. I hate going through this shit. My mates often tell me how I am the nicest person, and I'd chuckle reminding myself how cuntish I can be inside. I'm not saying that out loud though, would really sounds like calling for attention or something. I'm really doing better now that I have been for years so this inner cynicism kinda fades away easier in social situations. But I still feel it hiding in the dark waiting to hit.

  On 1/15/2015 at 11:16 AM, Perezvon said:

Deep inside and without wanting to in any way, I do feel superior than the others. It's like some social reflex, I don't know. I'm always working on it while in company of mates, colleagues, family, etc... Reminding myself that they're awesome people, that no, I shoudn't throw at them that jibe I have in mind. It's only a matter of seconds, even milliseconds, like the very first thing you think when meeting someone that you immediately hide under a carpet for the longer time possible. Like a flash of impure and mean thoughts.

 

And this does makes me feel insecure! I really like people. I hate going through this shit. My mates often tell me how I am the nicest person, and I'd chuckle reminding myself how cuntish I can be inside. I'm not saying that out loud though, would really sounds like calling for attention or something. I'm really doing better now that I have been for years so this inner cynicism kinda fades away easier in social situations. But I still feel it hiding in the dark waiting to hit.

And it never comes out by accident?

  On 1/15/2015 at 11:39 AM, hoggy said:

 

  On 1/15/2015 at 11:16 AM, Perezvon said:

Deep inside and without wanting to in any way, I do feel superior than the others. It's like some social reflex, I don't know. I'm always working on it while in company of mates, colleagues, family, etc... Reminding myself that they're awesome people, that no, I shoudn't throw at them that jibe I have in mind. It's only a matter of seconds, even milliseconds, like the very first thing you think when meeting someone that you immediately hide under a carpet for the longer time possible. Like a flash of impure and mean thoughts.

 

And this does makes me feel insecure! I really like people. I hate going through this shit. My mates often tell me how I am the nicest person, and I'd chuckle reminding myself how cuntish I can be inside. I'm not saying that out loud though, would really sounds like calling for attention or something. I'm really doing better now that I have been for years so this inner cynicism kinda fades away easier in social situations. But I still feel it hiding in the dark waiting to hit.

 

And it never comes out by accident?

 

It does... Sometimes they laugh, sometimes not so much lol

  On 1/15/2015 at 9:19 AM, StephenG said:

 

  On 1/15/2015 at 9:16 AM, goDel said:

What you thought was self deprecating might come off to others as quite the opposite. I don't think the attack was fair, though. But I could see where he was coming from. Seeing your affection with your own gpa score...

 

That's why I said "I'm borderline retarded".

 

Because I am. I figured that literal text would spell it out to whoever was reading it that I don't consider myself intelligent. It wasn't sarcastic or ironic etc.

 

But I can regurgitate.

 

That's the problem with the education system these days. If you can recite line after line of this rule or that rule, you're intelligent.

 

I don't really understand where this idea comes from. Even middle high school level math classes required lots of critical thinking. Try doing a trig proof by just regurgitating lines - I think they're damn hard (or were at the time). Some are really tricky. Some people don't do this though since those math classes aren't mandatory. Judge it by the top not the bottom. Then there's BC calculus, doing those weird integration techniques. That was pretty hard and required thinking. It's not all regurgitation.

YES x 15

am i the only one normal here (stratospherically creative and imponderably intelligent)?

i cant even do the maths around a dart-board

"double 17 + 5 + triple something = ???????"

then the olde cunt who yer playing & who cant even walk pipes in correctly every time

  On 1/15/2015 at 9:42 PM, cwmbrancity said:

i cant even do the maths around a dart-board

 

"double 17 + 5 + triple something = ???????"

 

42 something?

twelvety

  On 1/15/2015 at 10:01 PM, cwmbrancity said:

twelvety

man, your math is sublime

Just guess. There's only 180 different numbers it could be, you're bound to get it right sometime.

Fun Fact: I once won a poetry competition in high school. Much applause / credits from teachers etc. The certificate and engraved pen were presented to me--they had spelt my name wrong on both.

Geniouses abbound.