Why is life no longer exciting?

Well, it could be the hardest part. But that depends on personal conditions.

Especially when there's stuff from the past (youth) which is partly responsible for being too self-judgmental. Part of it is learning to be more self-compassionate (posted something about it in the loner thread, but can't be arsed to repost it.. :/), but equally important is understanding your own history, imo. (Sidenote: i'm not a ferm believer in the "the cure is to change your behavior" philosophy) Because your history is part of your identity, regardless of how you learn to behave. So to a level it's about coming to terms with your past. (Most of the times this boils down to dealing with a loss of some sort. Even the loss of what might have been if X didnt happen. The loss of a possible history/future could be just as impactful -emotionally - as a loss of a parent, for example)).

So yeah, it could be hard. Or even the hardest part. In the end though, it's like learning to ride a bike. Although, in the emotional world, you first might have to learn whether you still have both your legs. If you hop on the emotional bike without understanding you're missing a leg, you wont get very far.

life is still shit post essay

jonenestowns

  On 3/28/2015 at 8:04 AM, pyramidpanes said:

jonenestowns

2 edgy

I tell you, I don't care how many screams you hear, I don't care how many anguished cries...death is a million times preferable to ten more days of this life. If you knew what was ahead of you – if you knew what was ahead of you, you'd be glad to be stepping over tonight.

- J. Jones

  On 3/28/2015 at 2:40 PM, doublename said:

I tell you, I don't care how many screams you hear, I don't care how many anguished cries...death is a million times preferable to ten more days of this life. If you knew what was ahead of you – if you knew what was ahead of you, you'd be glad to be stepping over tonight.

 

- J. Jones

sometimes he's right

How dark and edgy.

P good flick IMHO ymmv

http://youtu.be/uNGleyHCJwg

  On 3/28/2015 at 2:40 PM, doublename said:

I tell you, I don't care how many screams you hear, I don't care how many anguished cries...death is a million times preferable to ten more days of this life. If you knew what was ahead of you – if you knew what was ahead of you, you'd be glad to be stepping over tonight.

 

- J. Jones

  On 3/28/2015 at 7:41 AM, logakght said:

 

  On 3/28/2015 at 7:26 AM, goDel said:

 

  On 3/24/2015 at 5:01 PM, THIS IS MICHAEL JACKSON said:

 

  On 3/15/2015 at 10:24 PM, murphythecat8 said:

mediation will help you see that assholes are not assholes. they act the way they do and they are the one suffering the most because of that.

everytime you think negatively of someone, you suffer automatically. even if your right or not to think that hes a asshole, it would be better, for your own sake, to see that the negativity you have for this person makes you suffer. therefore, its much more fun to live in the body and not care so much about what you think of people.

eventually, love will be the only feeling you have and compassion for others. because life is hard and well, theres no point to judge.

however, you can know that someone is acting like a asshole and you can even help him to see that, but to judge him and hate him for his mistakes only hurts yourself.

that's exactly what i wanted to know, the thing is, i haven't meditated yet and i already feel that way, well, not feel, i can think that way, but it's hard to feel it truly... but there's still a problem there, i might not judge, i might not think they're assholes, i might be compassionate towards them, but that doesn't change the fact that i don't enjoy being with them or does it? my main problem is achieving comfort with one another... gonna stop don't even know if this is making any sense.

i try my best not to judge, and even if i do judge i tend to not take it too seriously, it's like opinions, well, they're in fact opinions, and like people use to say, when i see them i wave at a distance and follow my way... the thing is, i'm always self-judging so it's just natural that i also judge others.

About achieving comfort with one another. The irony is, i think, that you've already pinpointed the most single point which blocks the comfort you're looking for: self-judgment. You can totally love and respect everyone in the world (without judgements etc), but if you don't love yourself you'll never feel that level of comfort you're looking for.

 

 

that is one of the hardest parts.

 

yes, how does one can love himself without becoming cocky?

  On 3/28/2015 at 3:36 PM, fiznuthian said:

 

  On 3/28/2015 at 2:40 PM, doublename said:

 

I tell you, I don't care how many screams you hear, I don't care how many anguished cries...death is a million times preferable to ten more days of this life. If you knew what was ahead of you if you knew what was ahead of you, you'd be glad to be stepping over tonight.

 

- J. Jones

sometimes he's right

If I was a doctor I would prescribe fellatio

  On 3/28/2015 at 10:06 PM, Candiru said:

 

  On 3/28/2015 at 3:36 PM, fiznuthian said:

 

  On 3/28/2015 at 2:40 PM, doublename said:

I tell you, I don't care how many screams you hear, I don't care how many anguished cries...death is a million times preferable to ten more days of this life. If you knew what was ahead of you if you knew what was ahead of you, you'd be glad to be stepping over tonight.

 

- J. Jones

sometimes he's right

If I was a doctor I would prescribe fellatio

 

Is there nothing it cannot cure?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/17/peter-zegarra-california-doctor-oral-sex_n_3293734.html

Reading the news and scrolling through youtube comments is the best thing about life.

  On 3/28/2015 at 9:15 PM, Perezvon said:

 

  On 3/28/2015 at 7:41 AM, logakght said:

 

 

  On 3/28/2015 at 7:26 AM, goDel said:

 

 

  On 3/24/2015 at 5:01 PM, THIS IS MICHAEL JACKSON said:

 

  On 3/15/2015 at 10:24 PM, murphythecat8 said:

mediation will help you see that assholes are not assholes. they act the way they do and they are the one suffering the most because of that.

everytime you think negatively of someone, you suffer automatically. even if your right or not to think that hes a asshole, it would be better, for your own sake, to see that the negativity you have for this person makes you suffer. therefore, its much more fun to live in the body and not care so much about what you think of people.

eventually, love will be the only feeling you have and compassion for others. because life is hard and well, theres no point to judge.

however, you can know that someone is acting like a asshole and you can even help him to see that, but to judge him and hate him for his mistakes only hurts yourself.

that's exactly what i wanted to know, the thing is, i haven't meditated yet and i already feel that way, well, not feel, i can think that way, but it's hard to feel it truly... but there's still a problem there, i might not judge, i might not think they're assholes, i might be compassionate towards them, but that doesn't change the fact that i don't enjoy being with them or does it? my main problem is achieving comfort with one another... gonna stop don't even know if this is making any sense.

i try my best not to judge, and even if i do judge i tend to not take it too seriously, it's like opinions, well, they're in fact opinions, and like people use to say, when i see them i wave at a distance and follow my way... the thing is, i'm always self-judging so it's just natural that i also judge others.

About achieving comfort with one another. The irony is, i think, that you've already pinpointed the most single point which blocks the comfort you're looking for: self-judgment. You can totally love and respect everyone in the world (without judgements etc), but if you don't love yourself you'll never feel that level of comfort you're looking for.

that is one of the hardest parts.

yes, how does one can love himself without becoming cocky?

Being cocky is a matter of thinking that your stuff (whatever it happens to be) is better than other people's stuff.

Loving yourself is a matter of doing your thing without self-judgement or -doubt. The Buddhist metaphor of the rock or the tree perfectly illustrate what such an un-neurotic being would look like: no self-doubt, completely in tune with itself...whereas us humans tend to dwell morbidly on our failures and shortcomings, the future and the past, should-be vs actually-is, our eventual death, etc

PS to address a couple other things mentioned in this thread...

Mindfulness is not about trying to stop thinking, it's about becoming aware THAT you are thinking (which might sound like 'duh, c'mon now' but truly we just tend get absorbed in thought without realizing it...and simply becoming aware that we're lost in thought--and, moreover, becoming aware that 'we are not our thoughts,, if that makes sense--can remove the teeth from our neurotic mental habits.

And regarding happiness being a matter of fending off boredom until you die...I hope it's clear that this not a recipe for success. What happens to you if sit in silence for a few hours? Why are you restless? Why are you afraid to be left alone with your thoughts? Answer these questions and you'll gain quite some insight into yourself.