I need help with a personal problem I've been having

  On 8/22/2015 at 12:53 AM, hoggy said:

I know the feeling you mean - actually I think it's deceptive (in a weird way) - I don't think that that feeling is what it appears to be

That's exactly what I've been thinking. It feels like a really good feeling at first, but the more I notice it the more horrible it becomes.

  On 8/21/2015 at 11:07 PM, drillkicker said:

 

  On 8/21/2015 at 10:52 PM, ThatSpanishGuy said:

Have you tried getting professional help, like a therapist? We all know the stigma is huge and the "just tough it out" mentality when it comes to mental health is still sadly prevalent but it really looks like you would greatly benefit from it.

I don't have the money to pay for therapy.

you'd be surprised how many affordable options there are out there. A lot of therapy schools have very discounted sessions for therapists still training to get licensed for example. Often most local city government or hospitals will offer free group therapy for different types of situations.

meditation is good advice and 'grounding' yourself by doing very physical things like nature hikes or long walks through places that give you comfortable or good vibes. Not saying to try to go out and get jogger's high to get your endorphins going, but normal pace walking for periods of of to one hour.

I'll see how far I can get on my own with it. I'll consider therapy as a last resort, because, again, this isn't a serious problem. Just a bothersome one. I've gone through much worse mental situations than this, so I'm not in a rush to get professional help.

i think sometimes therapy works best when its not during a 'crisis' situation. If this is a persistent and continuing problem but just isn't escalating to a point of being a crisis for you, its not going to hurt you to go see a therapist a few times. Also seeing one will help a lot for any future incident. thats all im going to say on the matter because I know how annoying it is for someone to be told to go to therapy

The truth is that I've wanted to go to therapy for a long time, as I have a lot on my mind that I would like to get rid of, but I'm also very introverted and don't like the idea of paying someone to be able to talk to them. It seems kind of unnatural. And I don't have a car, which isn't ideal since there are no therapy clinics within walking distance (or anywhere in this area) that I know of.

my 2p's worth,

you seem to describe aspects of depression

a foreign holiday is 1 thing, something thats usually incredibly refreshing, but what then when you get home and the walls start closing in again?

counseling/therapy WORK..... whatever is underpinning these feelings a trained independent professional can help, even if a few referrals take you to the place where things feel "right" and you find a personality who matches your requitements. You need an assessment at least, as there are many courses of action and directions for differing experiences and self-belief systems.

Dont panic, you seem proactive (learning languages etc) but ignore the bs advice, invest in yourself (which allows you to heal), which then allows you to live rather than just existing.

Good luck!

  On 8/22/2015 at 1:44 AM, cwmbrancity said:

a foreign holiday is 1 thing, something thats usually incredibly refreshing, but what then when you get home and the walls start closing in again?

I don't think that's it. I felt the same while I was in Europe (but obviously generally happier because I like Europe better), so I think that's unrelated. But I'll see a therapist if it's that important.

What do you mean by "investing" in myself, though?

in a word healing or to use less loaded terminology resolution

you describe an undercurrent you wish wasnt there:

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The truth is that I've wanted to go to therapy for a long time, as I have a lot on my mind that I would like to get rid of, but I'm also very introverted and don't like the idea of paying someone to be able to talk to them. It seems kind of unnatural

when we become "overloaded" a lot of things can begin to shut down, eg: sex drive (,----just using as a general example, not at you directly)

i do believe (through bitter personal experience) that the right therapy is a direct investment in being all we can be, which, given that we're all hurtling toward death, seems a worthy cause.

If you have "a lot on your mind you'd like to get rid of" there are professionals who can facilitate this process and that would be part of a long term investment in yourself.

My gf is a therapist, if you have anything you'd like to ask, however indirectly or whichever way you're most comfortable with, in pvt via pm pls feel free to ask.

by that i mean someone in complete confidence, rather than some asshole trolling you online mate

I don't think I really have anything to ask, it's just a lot of different things that I would like to express. But I guess if all of my problems just went away, then I would have no drive to make art, which would be kind of an unfavorable trade off.

Anyway, I don't feel like the emotion that this thread is about is related to those things, at least not directly. It's a very good feeling that I'm having, but in a bad way. It's difficult to describe, so that's the best I can do. It seems like it's related to the very fundamental nature of my personality, rather than anything direct that's going on with me.

Have you tried two wanks b2b

In all seriousness, i vote some form of travelling. What it did for me was enable me to look at my life from outside and plan a strategy to change it when I got back.

or a working holiday, fresh perspective, new people, fresh daily rounds,,,,,,,,

Learn a bit of Spanish and get on your way to Peru (Spanish being the most useful language you'll need on the way, although I'm not sure how far Spanish will take you in Brazil).

Usagi would tell you to buy a bike.

  On 8/22/2015 at 6:36 AM, chenGOD said:

Learn a bit of Spanish and get on your way to Peru (Spanish being the most useful language you'll need on the way, although I'm not sure how far Spanish will take you in Brazil).

 

Usagi would tell you to buy a bike.

Lols

Go sky diving.

I find that the more I get this sense, that some amazing idea is somehow just on the tip of my tongue, the less I actually get done. I spend ages racking my brains but getting nowhere - so what is that feeling, really? I haven't figured it out, and the more I try (to figure out what that feeling is), the more it just sends me in circles.

Scratch your bum, belch loudly, and don't give a fuck. Then everything shall fall into place.

limpy will disagree, but my advice is to keep busy - try something new. dont think so miuch. life isnt that complicated really - atleast not usually.

Something I find effective is writing 3 pages of whatever comes into your head, longhand. If you slag yourself off in it, reverse it (for example if you write 'I'm lazy', immediately write 'I'm energetic'), and if you ask a question in it, answer it immediately without thinking. (and write the answer)

It empties all the repetitious stuff out your head

Here's an idea - answer your own problem without thinking about it - so, without thinking, right now, what is the solution to your problem?

wank

Get into politics.

Seriously though, take a hike, over the weekend or just a couple of hours. Spending some time in nature helps put things in order. You don't have to spend a year in solitude trekking the globe, that's just how the media likes to sell it. Just pop right out there when every day life is getting to you for a different perspective.

A lucrative career in corporate espionage always did the trick for me.

I have something similliar and it has a huge impact an my life, the only difference I know what i need and have problems getting it.
anyways:
for me it sounds that you have an typical "modern problem" youre trying to solve that problem with youre intellect or distraction but -
for 1000 of years people didnt have that oppurtiny they didnt think about that stuff because they had other problems or were too exhausted by their work.

and now the most important thougt:
-every time you get that feeling do something you dont like that much,like clean up the dishes or housework
-work with youre hands

maybe it wont help but its a beginning

dedicate yourself to becoming a millionaire before you hit 30. then go into space on a russian rocket.