loner thread

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1gLhP5Pguis

  On 3/24/2015 at 5:17 AM, Danny O Flannagin said:

 

  On 3/24/2015 at 2:59 AM, Twelvetrees said:

I would consider myself an enthusiastic loner. Most nights when I go out all I can think about is how I'd love to be at home writing. I have friends and I like to go out, but only when I feel like it. It baffles me how some people can go out two or three times every week and not get sick of the repetition. Then again, I don't understand what it's like to be an extrovert so there you go.

 

But aren't most people at relatively the same level of friendships anyway? Just because extroverts speak to more people and channel more energy into social interactions doesn't mean that all these people are their friends. I know extroverted people who don't have anyone they can be personal with or really trust.

And staying in every night is not repetitive?

 

"Not repetitive techno music" is almost an oxymoron. And in the most awesome of livez, it's like one long techno track; with buildups and breakdowns, drops and cymbal crashes, some dude in the background saying something stupid yet memorable. Life is basically techno. In that sense, repetition is a given. So much so, that "repetition" is unnecessary in the English language.

 

I spent like 10 years back in the day, mostly indoors and on a laptop, cuz I was so passionate about composing music, chasing that IDM dragon. Like I thought I'd have more time to hang out with friends and family when I was signed to Warp, Rephlex, and Astralwerks simultaneously, hitting the ultra trifecta of back in the day. And then later on I realized that everyone was dying and shit, or having kids, and kids were no longer kids, and my pubez were getting out of control, and I realized, "It's good to spend time with people, cuz now is really all I got. I'm not working on my masterpiece albums so I can party at the retirement home, so there's not much weight to the benefit of that obsession." That being said, I did go out at times with friends, and did enjoy sunshine. But the main point is-- if you can read this text, you're still young. And youth is best spent exploring environments, cultures, new people, new substances, new paradigms. Youth is the best time to be a Life Adventurer.

 

If lonerismingz is preferred due to some zen concept, that's rad, mang. But I do feel that if discomfort is felt from not being alone-- this says more about the company than the loner. Of course being around shit people is gonna be shit. But if you can formulate that efficient and awesome group of deep friends to occasionally share your cosmic journey with- friends or family- there is really nothing like it. Really nothing as fun or cool. Except maybe speeding through the ether at 200 MPH in your mid-80's hot red Lamborghini Countach 5000QV with spoiler. You do that shit, and Zeus himself will put off a meeting with the gods to go cruising with you. Oh fuck- and then imagine during your ride with Zeus, you blast your ultra album that you've been working on for the past 10 years whilst being a loner. Damn dude, that shit would be tight.

Sometimes I wonder - is being a loner a choice, or is it fate?

Also Peace 7, don't ever change your style.

  On 3/24/2015 at 9:33 AM, ambermonk said:

Sometimes I wonder - is being a loner a choice, or is it fate?

 

 

It really seems like fate to me. No matter what strides I take to change things, I always end up back where I started. Maybe I'm doing it wrong, but I'm starting to believe this is the way it's supposed to be.

  On 3/24/2015 at 6:51 PM, flim said:

 

  On 3/24/2015 at 9:33 AM, ambermonk said:

Sometimes I wonder - is being a loner a choice, or is it fate?

 

It really seems like fate to me. No matter what strides I take to change things, I always end up back where I started. Maybe I'm doing it wrong, but I'm starting to believe this is the way it's supposed to be.

I believe loneliness is not an acceptable way of living. The few people I know who live alone are either depressed or have psychiatrics conditions.

  On 3/24/2015 at 11:38 PM, logakght said:

 

  On 3/24/2015 at 6:51 PM, flim said:

 

  On 3/24/2015 at 9:33 AM, ambermonk said:

Sometimes I wonder - is being a loner a choice, or is it fate?

It really seems like fate to me. No matter what strides I take to change things, I always end up back where I started. Maybe I'm doing it wrong, but I'm starting to believe this is the way it's supposed to be.

 

I believe loneliness is not an acceptable way of living. The few people I know who live alone are either depressed or have psychiatrics conditions.

 

Society might frown upon people who are loners, but I don't see it as something inherently wrong. We are certainly social animals, but if someone feels more comfortable alone, then it shouldn't be looked at as something wrong. Is the reason that loners are depressed because they are alone or because their depression makes them alone? There is a whole stigma on mental issues in our society and sometimes people don't feel comfortable to seek help.

  On 3/24/2015 at 5:17 AM, Danny O Flannagin said:

 

  On 3/24/2015 at 2:59 AM, Twelvetrees said:

I would consider myself an enthusiastic loner. Most nights when I go out all I can think about is how I'd love to be at home writing. I have friends and I like to go out, but only when I feel like it. It baffles me how some people can go out two or three times every week and not get sick of the repetition. Then again, I don't understand what it's like to be an extrovert so there you go.

 

But aren't most people at relatively the same level of friendships anyway? Just because extroverts speak to more people and channel more energy into social interactions doesn't mean that all these people are their friends. I know extroverted people who don't have anyone they can be personal with or really trust.

And staying in every night is not repetitive?

 

 

I enjoy staying in though, same way as they enjoy going going out.

I stay in, mostly through lack of interest in going out and complete and utter social ineptitude. I suck at making friends, and I'm losing the very few ones I have (not on the internet I mean) to women, booze, jobs and "real life".

 

I don't like it, but that's what's happening.

Edited March 25, 2015 by Zwei Kreise

http://www.cracked.com/article_19174_5-unexpected-downsides-high-intelligence_p2.html?utm_source=newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=weeklynewsletter

lol cracked

Very enlightening comic that explains all you need to know.

full of crap.

 

anyway here's a more informative list:

 

 

1 football

2 lsd

3 wanking

Someone forgot to hug their introvert today.

  On 3/25/2015 at 6:02 PM, fenton said:

full of crap.

 

anyway here's a more informative list:

 

 

1 football

2 lsd

3 wanking

That list is also full of crap.

 

  On 3/25/2015 at 6:25 PM, Friendly Foil said:

Someone forgot to hug their introvert today.

If that someone is a desperate, then said introvert is better off.

the thing about youth is that it doesnt last, time moves fast, 1min you're 25/26 relatively fit with options, next you're a greying & aged with regrets

 

make the most of your time here, invest in yourself, "heal" yourself (through counseling & therapy), because no-one else is going to do it for you

 

time only ever reduces your options the longer you spend on this planet & the more you leave/ignore a "problem" the more chance there is that life will make these decisions for you (and not for the better)

yolo

That comic is cute and insightful. Thanks, Mr. Foil.

i'm introverted as fuck and if anyone treats me like that comic i will knock them out

  On 3/25/2015 at 8:06 PM, cwmbrancity said:

the thing about youth is that it doesnt last, time moves fast, 1min you're 25/26 relatively fit with options, next you're a greying & aged with regrets

 

make the most of your time here, invest in yourself, "heal" yourself (through counseling & therapy), because no-one else is going to do it for you

 

time only ever reduces your options the longer you spend on this planet & the more you leave/ignore a "problem" the more chance there is that life will make these decisions for you (and not for the better)

For real, this loner thing has really worn thin for me. The closer I get to 30, the more important it feels to maintain connections/friendships with people.