stupid first world problems you're dealing with

  On 4/10/2021 at 10:02 AM, Zephyr_Nova said:

An hour is bad.  It is easy to be late if you're depending on bus transportation.  Hard to be late by car, unless there's unforeseeable traffic congestion.  I actually like it when the person I'm meeting is a little bit late, because it makes me look good.  And then I can be like "oh, don't worry about it, it's all good," and then they're like "he's so easygoing and understanding."

  On 4/10/2021 at 9:26 AM, Silent Member said:

Well, that's ridiculous.

An hour is actually good in his book. He has sometimes been 2-3 hours late. I've started sending him texts that say, "In case you can't find it, the address is...."

I have some Finnish friends who are constantly 30-60mins late. Funny enough the strictest stickler for time I know is a Portuguese guy and sometimes when he's upset that someone's late I ask him "aren't you supposed to be Portuguese?" Then he gets angry at me.

So, do these people all work jobs where it's cool to punch in whenever, or are they just magically able to be on time if it's job related?  If so, then they're being deliberately rude/shitty to whatever friend they're meeting,  as they clearly are able to be on time when they care.

*I'm sometimes late meeting friends, but I've also been fired from jobs for that reason.  So I'm consistent.

  On 4/10/2021 at 11:09 AM, Zephyr_Nova said:

So, do these people all work jobs where it's cool to punch in whenever, or are they just magically able to be on time if it's job related?

They kind of have a bit of leeway at jobs. For example one is a CTO in startup company so he doesn't really have any set working hours and is chronically late for all meetings, even when he remembers they are happening in the first place which doesn't happen always and people need to call him.

Also one of my friends works as an IT security specialist but he's kind of calendar and clock blind somehow. It's hard to explain, but for example he forgot on which week he was supposed to have his vacation and trip to Malaysia and realized it the night before, ffs.

                                                            My friend's dad always said to him "5 minutes early is on Time. On Time is late!"

  On 4/10/2021 at 1:06 PM, diatoms said:

                                                            My friend's dad always said to him "5 minutes early is on Time. On Time is late!"

"Fünf Minuten vor der Zeit
das ist rechte Pünktlichkeit"

  On 4/10/2021 at 2:40 AM, Squee said:

My friend was an hour late. 

Did he/she at least text?

I think it really depends on the context for me. Work meetings - after 2 minutes of waiting I'm starting to be impatient.

Meeting a friend for coffee during the middle of the day (when that used to be a thing) - 15-20 minutes is tolerable, maybe more depending on what I have planned for the rest of the day.

Meeting a friend for drinks - meh, whatever I'm happy drinking by myself.

Perception of time in different cultures is fascinating.

My SFWP - I changed insurance providers because I could end up saving like $1000 a year (for home/auto insurance). I asked my insurance broker if there would be any early cancellation penalty for switching. He was all "no in fact it looks like they will owe you money." So I went ahead and made the switch. Turns out my broker misread the invoice from my original provider, and so now for this month I ended up paying first and last month with the new provider, as well as a month for my previous insurer, which was like $400. So fucking stupid.

  On 4/10/2021 at 11:09 AM, Zephyr_Nova said:

So, do these people all work jobs where it's cool to punch in whenever, or are they just magically able to be on time if it's job related?

This guy is self-employed. He starts working around 12-1 PM. I don't get it. I'm self-employed and I'm in the studio at 8 AM.

  On 4/10/2021 at 4:45 PM, chenGOD said:

Did he/she at least text?

No.
I'm usually the one who starts sending passive-aggressive texts.

  On 4/10/2021 at 5:14 PM, Squee said:

No.
I'm usually the one who starts sending passive-aggressive texts.

Well that's just BS. If I'm going to be late I always send a text saying sorry and when I expect to arrive.

Next time you see your friend, ask him why he can't be more like your real friends at watmm.  We're here before you even arrive.

if someone is routinely late i usually tell them the thing we're meeting for is starting earlier than the actual time. growing up in miami i had some cuban friends and puerto rican friends. culturally they're on island time.. even for big things like weddings.  one of my mom's close friends is cuban and she went to a wedding of one their family members and showed up on time according to the invitation and it was her and a bunch of white people sitting around for an hour before the cubans showed up because 40 minutes late is the norm. after that my mom asked her friend "hey wtf is it w/you being late?" and her friend responded something like "oh that's just a cuban thing. no one ever shows up on time. 40 minutes late is typical." 

so after that whenever my mom invited them to something she'd always give them an earlier time or she would tell them "we're on white people's clock for this one so 6pm for dinner means 6pm for dinner not 6:40."

it's a thing they'd joke about w/each other sometimes... and there's a lot of jokes that live in that context of "island time" or "puerto rican rules" etc. 

I've been getting an alarming amount of heart palpitations lately, especially during physical activity, and I think it's from the amount of caffeine that I drink.  It may be time to end this addiction once and for all.

  On 4/13/2021 at 2:07 AM, drillkicker said:

I've been getting an alarming amount of heart palpitations lately, especially during physical activity, and I think it's from the amount of caffeine that I drink.  It may be time to end this addiction once and for all.

taper.  but, 1 cup a day in the morning is ok for most people.. the rest of the day just drink water.. lot's of water.. you'll pee a lot but you'll feel way better. 

black tea is the road to breaking the caffeine addiction. i quit caffeine for a few years 10 or so years ago.  got down to no caffeine pretty quickly. took a month or something. 

if the  palpitations become concerning to you it's worth getting checked out. it's not a big deal. they can do an EKG which takes a few minutes. longer to hook up the little sticky leads than it takes for the actual test.. but they can do a stress test where they put you on a treadmill hooked up tp the heart thing. 

  On 4/13/2021 at 3:41 AM, ignatius said:

taper.  but, 1 cup a day in the morning is ok for most people.. the rest of the day just drink water.. lot's of water.. you'll pee a lot but you'll feel way better. 

black tea is the road to breaking the caffeine addiction. i quit caffeine for a few years 10 or so years ago.  got down to no caffeine pretty quickly. took a month or something. 

if the  palpitations become concerning to you it's worth getting checked out. it's not a big deal. they can do an EKG which takes a few minutes. longer to hook up the little sticky leads than it takes for the actual test.. but they can do a stress test where they put you on a treadmill hooked up tp the heart thing. 

 

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Yeah, I noticed the palpitations get worse when I've had coffee.  I drank a cup before my workout yesterday with disastrous results.  I had to call it quits after about half an hour.  There has been a time in my life when I was drinking only tea and no coffee, so I know it's possible, but I was an idiot and went back to the shit.  I didn't know how bad it is for me.

  On 4/13/2021 at 2:07 AM, drillkicker said:

I've been getting an alarming amount of heart palpitations lately, especially during physical activity, and I think it's from the amount of caffeine that I drink.  It may be time to end this addiction once and for all.

I've had the same shit happen when consuming coffee in high concentrations. But then I've learned that it's OK to leave a cup unfinished.

But yeah, best to stay plenty hydrated after the first cup as Ignatius suggested.

  On 4/13/2021 at 12:12 PM, drillkicker said:

I didn't know how bad it is for me.

the only way to figure that out is to go get checked out. I have/had atrial fibrillation. had procedures to correct it and have taken various meds for years to control it. after the most recent corrective procedure (cardiac ablation) i haven't had any prolonged instances of Afib and i'm on a very low dose of a beta blocker. 

with Afib the danger is having a stroke from a blood clot caused by the irregular rhythm.  plenty of people actually stay in afib for years and just take a blood thinner or whatever other therapy the cardiologist chooses. I still get some premature heartbeats.. which is when a heart beat is interrupted by a new beat.. and some short runs of weird rhythms but otherwise mostly good. 

heart burn can feel like classic cardiac chest pain. worth mentioning.

but if your heart is something you're concerned with i'd say go through the process of seeing a doc and getting referred to see a cardiologist if the doc recommends that. if only to get an answer to what is happening. could be nothing or it could be something treatable.

  On 4/13/2021 at 3:41 AM, ignatius said:

tapr

Kind of a FWS - I do not have any oral STIs (test came back negative).  But now I really have no idea what this throat thing could possibly be.  There are things about it that rule out every other throat related thing I've read about online.

I tried making pancakes today and made so much smoke that the fire department came. We're all connected with the fire detectors security alarm etc. upstairs. oops sorry guys. 

  On 4/13/2021 at 9:59 PM, Zephyr_Nova said:

Kind of a FWS - I do not have any oral STIs (test came back negative).  But now I really have no idea what this throat thing could possibly be.  There are things about it that rule out every other throat related thing I've read about online.

Not sure if it was already mentioned, but if I wake up with a sore throat for no reason it's usually because I slept with my mouth open.

That was the doc's first thought on the phone, but I don't think I sleep with my mouth open.  There would be drool, and my mouth would be dry.  Plus it wouldn't persist for 5 days straight (usually it's gone within an hour after waking up, but it has persisted for extended periods twice.  Identical sensation though, so I'm sure it's the same thing).

  On 4/14/2021 at 6:37 AM, Zephyr_Nova said:

That was the doc's first thought on the phone, but I don't think I sleep with my mouth open.  There would be drool, and my mouth would be dry.  Plus it wouldn't persist for 5 days straight (usually it's gone within an hour after waking up, but it has persisted for extended periods twice.  Identical sensation though, so I'm sure it's the same thing).

 

Fuck, throat gremlins is almost certainly the culprit.