discussion on having kids

i thought it'd be quite cool to have kids, to give them the opportunities i did not have. but then i worry i'd basically be having a kid to vicariously experience all my unfulfilled dreams. basically, what jung said.

if my kid ended up smoking weed everyday, living on benefits, with no interested in anything but shitty tv i'm not sure how much i would be able to "love" him or her. i'd like to think if i had a kid it wouldn't end up like that, but if it did i worry i wouldn't be able to love it.

If anyone has doubts about having kids, they shouldn't. Simple as that.

  scones to die for said:

If anyone has doubts about having kids, they shouldn't. Simple as that.

sounds great to me.

people who have doubts about having kids might be normal people, and therefore normal parents who'll have normal kids

the potential for lulz in this thread is massive. Come on people.

i banged abunch of 16 year olds. some of them got preg, i dunno

oh this is a" serious thread", laters

ok, sorry sneaksta303

  yek said:

i banged abunch of 16 year olds. some of them got preg, i dunno

 

 

 

 

oh this is a" serious thread", laters

there's a thread about 16 yr olds

  tauboo said:

ok, sorry sneaksta303

 

  yek said:

i banged abunch of 16 year olds. some of them got preg, i dunno

 

 

 

 

oh this is a" serious thread", laters

there's a thread about 16 yr olds

reallllllly? :undecided:

nope

*fart*

I have a kid. She came with my wife. I met her when she was one. She's called me daddy forever.

It's awesome. She's a great kid too. I could never let her down.

But not everyone should have kids. Overpopulation of the earth is an issue, whoever said it wasn't is sadly misinformed. UNfortunately, it's the 3rd world places that don't seem to have a handle on birth control.

And Hexagon Sun..East Van ain't that bad. Or you could come out and join me in New West...

about that david cosby vid "my friends who had kids are boring":

i haven't watched the vid, but my wife had a friend since college days that she used to hang out with. they went to malaysia together, they hooked up each other with jobs. hell, there were times when i suspected them of foul play and was hoping to get in on the mix. but once we had liam, this girl just up and left after a couple of visits. i distinctly remember the look on her face when liam (then about 1 month) was crying. she was pretty terrified. that was the last time we ever saw her. i totally understand why single people wouldn't want to hang out with a couple with children, but that was pretty sad and it tore my wife apart. but she moved on.

we obviously tend to converse with neighbors with children than with the ones who don't. i don't completely ignore them, but i don't go over when they invite us for a bbq. but we do with the other married with children couples. what sucks though is that the people that live in the cul de sac where i live only have girls... there's about 4 girls between the ages of 3 and 5. the nearest boy lives too far for us to go out of our way to say "hey... can my son play with yours?"

kids are awesome

the best part is when the girl's boobs get huge and her belly swells up which gets maria de medeiros hot which gets me all hot and yeah kids are great

  sneaksta303 said:

the potential for lulz in this thread is massive. Come on people.

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  Mirezzi said:

  sneaksta303 said:

the potential for lulz in this thread is massive. Come on people.

 

 

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No thankyou

lol ok good so far...

This sample is from My Secret Life written by some anonymous man in the middle of the XIXth century.

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Next year, one day my mother opened a letter, it was from the E family; and read aloud little scraps of it to me, and my sisters who were in the room. "That family is all doing very well", said she; "Mary who was with us but three months last year is married." She went on reading, "And Charlotte's husband has taken a large shop and is making money. — Ah ! I am very glad of it, for she was a nice respectable girl. Ohl here, — and has just been confined with a fine boy. — I am very glad", said mother. I looked and found it was nine months after Tom's birthday, and that that day nine months some one [the narrator] had fucked Charlotte five times. I was delighted.

I miss those times when procreation and sex still went hand-in-hand...

Why?

looks like everyone here is throwing an opinion into this thread. personally, i think i'm just too immature to be a parent. i've always been focused on myself and my significant other, i pretty much put everything i have into my relationships so i don't think there would be much left for a child. plus it took me a long time to get my life together to the point where i'm actually self supportive with something left over at the end of the month, so there are economics to think about. i think if i could find the right girl i could be totally satisfied with life, plus my brother gave me a nephew so it's like i have someone to focus the whole parental type emotions on, and spoil him without having to be responsible for him 24/7.

phew!

Thread kinda went downhill on these last two pages but I'm glad I read all this. Thanks guys for the valuable opinions.

so to summarize:

stop having kids

  Gardenia said:

  maus said:

i just don't get it, personally.

 

upon being asked, people immediately profess how having a kid is the best thing ever, how there's nothing like it, how it's the single #1 thing they've ever done. upon further questioning (in my experience) it turns out that the flipside to that coin is the abandonment of their personal dreams, lack of time to do anything for themselves or their spouse, serious financial limitations imposed by being responsible both ethically and legally for another person.

 

i personally find the idea completely horrifying. that's just me, and i don't think it's a BAD idea for someone else, but the concept of spending 18 years of my life with a child as my primary responsibility is about on par with the concept of being under house arrest. i know that's an extreme opinion, and probably woefully inaccurate, but for some reason it's my reaction.

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Hah, awesome post.

Sums up the post right there.

LOLWTF?

got the windows open because of nice weather and i've noticed young dutch-moroccan kids saying stuff to eachother in english, but only confrontational stuff like 'shut up'. their parents all speak dutch.