stupid first world problems you're dealing with

  On 10/11/2015 at 4:29 AM, azatoth said:

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  On 10/10/2015 at 10:45 PM, MDM Chaos said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 6:37 AM, azatoth said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 6:13 AM, yek said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 5:59 AM, azatoth said:

Got "dumped" (complicated relationship thingamajig) because of being a "nice guy". Ugh.

come on man, just be an asshole

 

I don't want to be and it's not my nature.

 

i don't understand this concept. why would someone dump you for being nice?

 

She is suffering from depression. Didn't want to be someone "saved" because she doesn't think she can be saved, which she interpreted my niceness to be. I was just being like I would be with anyone else. But whatever. Hope she finds whatever she is looking for, not sure if she even knows herself what it is. I got my own issues to deal with it. Maybe this relationship thing is just not something for me.

 

tl;dr who cares sounds like shit.

I believe the simple answer is^

Next?

(no seriously there is no 'answer' so ignore advice just try again, it's roulette. you'll get green eventually just keep sticking $500 euro notes on it. xxxxx love xxxxx

  On 10/11/2015 at 10:30 AM, fenton said:

 

  On 10/11/2015 at 4:29 AM, azatoth said:

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  On 10/10/2015 at 10:45 PM, MDM Chaos said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 6:37 AM, azatoth said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 6:13 AM, yek said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 5:59 AM, azatoth said:

Got "dumped" (complicated relationship thingamajig) because of being a "nice guy". Ugh.

come on man, just be an asshole

 

I don't want to be and it's not my nature.

 

i don't understand this concept. why would someone dump you for being nice?

 

She is suffering from depression. Didn't want to be someone "saved" because she doesn't think she can be saved, which she interpreted my niceness to be. I was just being like I would be with anyone else. But whatever. Hope she finds whatever she is looking for, not sure if she even knows herself what it is. I got my own issues to deal with it. Maybe this relationship thing is just not something for me.

 

 

 

tl;dr who cares sounds like shit.

 

I believe the simple answer is^

 

Next?

 

(no seriously there is no 'answer' so ignore advice just try again, it's roulette. you'll get green eventually just keep sticking $500 euro notes on it. xxxxx love xxxxx

 

Yeah. I am just rubbish at roulette.

  On 10/11/2015 at 5:01 AM, Mesh Gear Fox said:

squee - sounds like those three options aren't too bad! perhaps you have the upper hand here

I think I do. I received a message from my boss Friday afternoon just before the day was over and he said he wanted a meeting with me some time next week about how I feel and my salary. The only thing is, I think he'll get shocked when he finds out how much I want.

  On 10/11/2015 at 4:29 AM, azatoth said:

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  On 10/10/2015 at 10:45 PM, MDM Chaos said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 6:37 AM, azatoth said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 6:13 AM, yek said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 5:59 AM, azatoth said:

Got "dumped" (complicated relationship thingamajig) because of being a "nice guy". Ugh.

come on man, just be an asshole

 

I don't want to be and it's not my nature.

 

i don't understand this concept. why would someone dump you for being nice?

 

She is suffering from depression. Didn't want to be someone "saved" because she doesn't think she can be saved, which she interpreted my niceness to be. I was just being like I would be with anyone else. But whatever. Hope she finds whatever she is looking for, not sure if she even knows herself what it is. I got my own issues to deal with it. Maybe this relationship thing is just not something for me.

 

urgh, i hate how the karpman triangle so often comes into these situations. it's sad that she's not well enough to be with some who cares about her.

the fact that she seems to want herself to be saved (or why would she mention it) but won't allow it for self esteem reasons is not a good sign.

if my mum was here she'd suggest CBT and just staying in touch at a distance to check she's ok. in the meantime, just live your life.

how old is she if you don't mind me asking? some women go through some intense hormonal changes during life.

  On 10/11/2015 at 12:43 PM, MDM Chaos said:

 

  On 10/11/2015 at 4:29 AM, azatoth said:

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  On 10/10/2015 at 10:45 PM, MDM Chaos said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 6:37 AM, azatoth said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 6:13 AM, yek said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 5:59 AM, azatoth said:

Got "dumped" (complicated relationship thingamajig) because of being a "nice guy". Ugh.

come on man, just be an asshole

 

I don't want to be and it's not my nature.

 

i don't understand this concept. why would someone dump you for being nice?

 

She is suffering from depression. Didn't want to be someone "saved" because she doesn't think she can be saved, which she interpreted my niceness to be. I was just being like I would be with anyone else. But whatever. Hope she finds whatever she is looking for, not sure if she even knows herself what it is. I got my own issues to deal with it. Maybe this relationship thing is just not something for me.

 

 

urgh, i hate how the karpman triangle so often comes into these situations. it's sad that she's not well enough to be with some who cares about her.

 

the fact that she seems to want herself to be saved (or why would she mention it) but won't allow it for self esteem reasons is not a good sign.

 

if my mum was here she'd suggest CBT and just staying in touch at a distance to check she's ok. in the meantime, just live your life.

 

how old is she if you don't mind me asking? some women go through some intense hormonal changes during life.

 

She is 37 and has been battling with severe depression since she was a young teenager. Been on different medications and I guess some therapy too. But nothing seems to work. Has two kids, which is probably the only reason she hasn't committed suicide. Probably a mistake I was involved with her in the first place, wasn't anything exclusive either. I'll just turn the page and move on and for once worry about myself and getting myself in order to be a more wholesome person. Had some good times, but also a streak of sorrow overshadowed as her mom passed away when I was seeing her. The Karpman triangle seems apt, only it seems it was just two victims involved.

incorrect, in this case the illness becomes the persecutor. wait, it wasn't exclusive? walk away man, walk away.

never make someone a priority, for whom you are merely an option.

  On 10/11/2015 at 7:48 AM, ambermonk said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 5:17 PM, drillkicker said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 6:40 AM, ambermonk said:

I think I'm finally convinced - I wanna get the hell out of Alaska by next spring. It was like coming home to a ghetto after my AE NA trip.

Come on, Alaska isn't a ghetto. You don't know how good it seems compared to where I moved to. Ever since I got to Southern Maryland, all I've wanted was to go back to Alaska.

 

When was the last time you were there?

 

Lately it seems like there's someone getting shot or stabbed every week...large pickups racing down the highway and Fast and Furious wannabes screaming down city streets in their gay-ass spoiler cars...shitty bars...understaffed law enforcement...meth addicts all over...in Anch at least. Maybe I've been living here too long, but I swear it's gotten more chaotic over the past five years.

I haven't been there in about five years, but I would be surprised if it's really changed that much in that short amount of time. When I left it was the nicest place in the world.

  On 10/10/2015 at 10:45 PM, MDM Chaos said:

i don't understand this concept. why would someone dump you for being nice?

If they're a masochist, if they don't trust 'nice' people, if they want someone a little bit wicked so they can relax, if they feel you are getting a kick more out of being 'nice' than really relating to them, if they want a bit of toughness because it's what they're used to and associate with love, or if they think toughness might help them get shit together, or if they are looking for an excuse to antagonise you/get out of the relationship

  On 10/11/2015 at 3:55 PM, hoggy said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 10:45 PM, MDM Chaos said:

i don't understand this concept. why would someone dump you for being nice?

 

If they're a masochist, if they don't trust 'nice' people, if they want someone a little bit wicked so they can relax, if they feel you are getting a kick more out of being 'nice' than really relating to them, if they want a bit of toughness because it's what they're used to and associate with love, or if they think toughness might help them get shit together, or if they are looking for an excuse to antagonise you/get out of the relationship

i've been accused of being "too nice" by two previous partners, one because i don't push in front of people on public transport and the other because i don't shout at service staff for getting my order wrong. they both saw my being nice as a sign of weakness, and both turned out to be very unpleasant people in the long run.

  On 10/11/2015 at 4:23 PM, MDM Chaos said:

 

  On 10/11/2015 at 3:55 PM, hoggy said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 10:45 PM, MDM Chaos said:

i don't understand this concept. why would someone dump you for being nice?

 

If they're a masochist, if they don't trust 'nice' people, if they want someone a little bit wicked so they can relax, if they feel you are getting a kick more out of being 'nice' than really relating to them, if they want a bit of toughness because it's what they're used to and associate with love, or if they think toughness might help them get shit together, or if they are looking for an excuse to antagonise you/get out of the relationship

 

i've been accused of being "too nice" by two previous partners, one because i don't push in front of people on public transport and the other because i don't shout at service staff for getting my order wrong. they both saw my being nice as a sign of weakness, and both turned out to be very unpleasant people in the long run.

Some people believe you have to be pushy and aggressive in order to be treated with respect and that people who are more passive are dishonourable in some way - I find people who believe that to be a fucking nightmare to be around, because they always have to prove they are tough and challenge everyone around them - and they are often very insecure to have to undermine others (like they did to you in this case)

(but having said that, to them I probably seem very passive aggressive and irritating)

  On 10/11/2015 at 4:43 PM, hoggy said:

 

  On 10/11/2015 at 4:23 PM, MDM Chaos said:

 

  On 10/11/2015 at 3:55 PM, hoggy said:

 

  On 10/10/2015 at 10:45 PM, MDM Chaos said:

i don't understand this concept. why would someone dump you for being nice?

 

If they're a masochist, if they don't trust 'nice' people, if they want someone a little bit wicked so they can relax, if they feel you are getting a kick more out of being 'nice' than really relating to them, if they want a bit of toughness because it's what they're used to and associate with love, or if they think toughness might help them get shit together, or if they are looking for an excuse to antagonise you/get out of the relationship

 

i've been accused of being "too nice" by two previous partners, one because i don't push in front of people on public transport and the other because i don't shout at service staff for getting my order wrong. they both saw my being nice as a sign of weakness, and both turned out to be very unpleasant people in the long run.

 

Some people believe you have to be pushy and aggressive in order to be treated with respect and that people who are more passive are dishonourable in some way - I find people who believe that to be a fucking nightmare to be around, because they always have to prove they are tough and challenge everyone around them - and they are often very insecure to have to undermine others (like they did to you in this case)

(but having said that, to them I probably seem very passive aggressive and irritating)

 

Yeah, fuck these people (the pushy assholes). I do bar/restaurant work and simple politeness goes such a long way and is really appreciated. Even if a customer's asking for something that's a bit of a pain in the hole, as long as they're courteous it makes a world of difference. I always feel like someone's dad when I say this but simple politeness is 10/10, absolutely nowt wrong with being nice.

getting alcoholics to sobriety

horse...... water..........

My boss screamed at me today lol, repeatedly said "whos the boss?"and didn't rest till i said "you are", very bizarre moment in my life, laughed all the way tru it cause it was like your typical COCA-head rant you see in the movies (he is an actual cocaine user too but i didnt know he did it this early)

my days are counted for sure, yellow card.

for those wondering why he was screaming at me, the section i do today is closed due to the Chris Columbus massacre celebrations so i decided to take the day off since i have to go to the dentists today i was gonna cut my day short anyways (was gonna work 3 hours today, probably was gonna do fuck all), he didnt like this thats for sure.

I just made the mistake of catching up on my work emails from home after a 5-week holiday. in there I found something about the recent promotion round - in which I was 'successful' - being reviewed, and me, along with a bunch of other people, being at risk of losing their (already fucking announced!) promotions. what the fuck is this runaround horseshit.

  On 10/12/2015 at 2:36 PM, usagi said:

I just made the mistake of catching up on my work emails from home after a 5-week holiday. in there I found something about the recent promotion round - in which I was 'successful' - being reviewed, and me, along with a bunch of other people, being at risk of losing their (already fucking announced!) promotions. what the fuck is this runaround horseshit.

That sucks, man.

Earlier this year we were told that instead of a raise we would be given a bonus if the company reached the budget goal + an extra 10%. At the time we were told this we were already far behind and everyone immediately saw that the bonus was totally out of reach. Clever, bosses.

Anyway, having a boss SUCKS!

I'm super tired and kinda feel like shit in general today, but it's Midterm week and today is review day when we find out what exactly's being covered later this week... gotta be here. At least I have caffeine.

  On 10/12/2015 at 1:59 PM, Deer said:

My boss screamed at me today lol, repeatedly said "whos the boss?"and didn't rest till i said "you are", very bizarre moment in my life, laughed all the way tru it cause it was like your typical COCA-head rant you see in the movies (he is an actual cocaine user too but i didnt know he did it this early)

 

my days are counted for sure, yellow card.

 

for those wondering why he was screaming at me, the section i do today is closed due to the Chris Columbus massacre celebrations so i decided to take the day off since i have to go to the dentists today i was gonna cut my day short anyways (was gonna work 3 hours today, probably was gonna do fuck all), he didnt like this thats for sure.

sounds like a fucking knob to me. Good on you for not losing your shit on him or going down to his level.

I think my phone may be broken and thus I am missing a lot of very important calls. Will find out soon if that's the case!

Tl;dr: Phones suck

A little update, just entered panic mode right now, i know there is no way this will end well so i started looking for a new job but then i realised FUCK THIS SHIT, this is what my life is gonna be hopping from unskilled job to unskilled job hating every minute of it waking up every morning saying today is gonna be different then two years later its all the same, what the fuck man, this is trutly an insane way of living , my time is running out, there is so much a man can take and im a pussy so my treshhold is very low, wonder what happens when one reaches boiling point, i like to think i have all the senses with me and nothing bad will happen but i dont know, i dont want to go crazy, i refuse to be beaten but fuck man im walking on a wire.

I also dont want to be mirserable for the benefit of everybody else, its started to show on my face,my mom asked me if i was depressed, that was a game changer, i have a little brother and i know this shit sticks (meaning if you are down you can bring evryone selse with you)half my family are a bunch of miserables fucks and everybody else just have to live with that cause love i guess but i dont want to become THAT guy,i want my brother to look at my face and see someone who happy with life and that shit get better and all that. We have zero role models and right now im starting to see the effects of that and i just dont want anyone i love to end up misersable,

  On 10/12/2015 at 1:59 PM, Deer said:

My boss screamed at me today lol, repeatedly said "whos the boss?"and didn't rest till i said "you are", very bizarre moment in my life, laughed all the way tru it cause it was like your typical COCA-head rant you see in the movies (he is an actual cocaine user too but i didnt know he did it this early)

 

my days are counted for sure, yellow card.

 

for those wondering why he was screaming at me, the section i do today is closed due to the Chris Columbus massacre celebrations so i decided to take the day off since i have to go to the dentists today i was gonna cut my day short anyways (was gonna work 3 hours today, probably was gonna do fuck all), he didnt like this thats for sure.

Is your boss Colin Ferral from Horrible bosses?

Hahah yes that who I was thinking , just a bit older and Italian and brags about fucking the elderly secretary (no joke) lol

Having a crap job sucks, just keep applying man. Maybe get a friend to look over your CV.

  On 10/12/2015 at 7:44 PM, Deer said:

Hahah yes that who I was thinking , just a bit older and Italian and brags about fucking the elderly secretary (no joke) lol

Your boss sounds like a straight-up asshole. I'd jump ship as soon as possible.

  On 10/12/2015 at 8:31 PM, ambermonk said:

 

  On 10/12/2015 at 7:44 PM, Deer said:

Hahah yes that who I was thinking , just a bit older and Italian and brags about fucking the elderly secretary (no joke) lol

Your boss sounds like a straight-up asshole. I'd jump ship as soon as possible.

 

This!

Don't even let him fire you. Take your stuff and leave.

What do you exactly?