stupid first world problems you're dealing with

lol at there being a sliding scale of 'more deserving immigrants' and yeah, I think that's what they believe too. A 'we were here first' mentality. I find a lot of West Indian colleagues hate on African colleagues for this reason too.

Oh I just found out one of the aforementioned colleagues doesn't believe in evolution too. Perfect.

wtf is going on!?

i am truly shocked at the evolution thing. Are they evangelical christian ?

hopefully those immigrants will introduce a bit of female attractiveness in the british gene pool

He's a christian yeah, 50yr old jamaican dude. Ex-army.

We actually get on quite well normally, we usually tag team on these stretches of 7 nightshifts. He's mentioned before that he wants us to go for a drink and hangout and stuff.

But every now and then he gets into this nope territory of conversation.

I've just politely declined to get into the evolution thing. Fuck dat.

@tsg THIN ICE

  On 3/5/2016 at 12:26 AM, ThatSpanishGuy said:

hopefully those immigrants will introduce a bit of female attractiveness in the british gene pool

you'll never know under the burqa ..

  On 3/5/2016 at 12:28 AM, hello spiral said:

He's a christian yeah, 50yr old jamaican dude. Ex-army.

We actually get on quite well normally, we usually tag team on these stretches of 7 nightshifts. He's mentioned before that he wants us to go for a drink and hangout and stuff.

But every now and then he gets into this nope territory of conversation.

I've just politely declined to get into the evolution thing. Fuck dat.

 

@tsg THIN ICE

Well you can have a drink with people that you are not politically compatible with and still get along. I mean you and i get along haha. [-; And i'd love to get sauced with the loverly mister spriral.

1/3 of jamrock is pentecostal.

there are some strange beliefs amongst my island brethren.

edit: maybe it's closer to 50% actually

lol delet, I never said otherwise. It would be a pleasure.

Yeah lot of pentacostals here too. Some of them come in and can barely speak because they've been up all night screaming and speaking in tongues etc.

You see those stories in the news sometimes where a bunch of Pentacostal Christians have been arrested for torturing someone ie perfoming an 'exorcism'.

I've said before I would not be at all surprised if a certain one of my female colleagues didn't show up for work one day and we see her face in the paper the following day.

!!

Girlfriend broke up with me...

Self-pity is intense these days

But now I have time for dank memes again

  On 3/5/2016 at 12:30 AM, delet... said:

Well you can have a drink with people that you are not politically compatible with and still get along.

This... take heed whinging political crusaders on all sides.

  On 3/5/2016 at 7:44 PM, Npoess said:

Girlfriend broke up with me...

 

Self-pity is intense these days

 

But now I have time for dank memes again

I must have quoted this message right when you edited it, cause the page showed the unedited message but the quote in my reply draft showed the edited message... quantum posting wow

would say I'm sorry but most breakups end up being for the better in retrospect, so yeah, don't dwell on it and come back to chatmm ffs

Why do hidden tracks still exist

why

Well, I discovered her self-absorption and egoism didn't really know any boundaries. So it probably is for the best.

But man, that shit fucks you up no matter what.

Right now I need to be an annoying little emo kid, but I'll be back in chatmm in time, don't you worry.

  On 3/5/2016 at 7:59 PM, Npoess said:

Well, I discovered her self-absorption and egoism didn't really know any boundaries. So it probably is for the best.

 

But man, that shit fucks you up no matter what.

 

Right now I need to be an annoying little emo kid, but I'll be back in chatmm in time, don't you worry.

may i also suggest: https://www.facebook.com/nihilistmemes/

sucks dude..

i think i found the best video on the internet (<- avatar related), and think this is the apex of my internet-stay.. does anything get better than chillpin? i dont know man..

  On 3/5/2016 at 7:44 PM, Npoess said:

Girlfriend broke up with me...

 

Self-pity is intense these days

 

But now I have time for dank memes again

sympathies/lol. this is the most appropriate relationship status possible for a dank meme lord.

livin that vaporwave lifestyle

(life is small fragments of previous experience incased in thick haze, primarily designed to be documented on the internet)

sometimes i feel very strongly that i should give up on trying to have "fun", forging meaningful relationships, having serious romance etc etc. because trying to get that stuff hasn't done much for me or for anyone else

just put all my energy into my projects, let the beauty of nature etc be the reward. and then i'll get really zen & skillful & maybe then i will allow myself to experience love with another person

either that or i'll be like 60yo tonetta//outsider musician in a grimey apartment with a shit-ton of tracks, totally detached from society. stick my head in the oven. i mean shit i've already got a ton of tracks & a feeling of detachment c'mon people it's go time

Relationship problems : been with my gf for a year and a half now, great girl, but sometimes she suddenly burst into rage for no particular reason. I learnt to adapt myself to this and been trying my best for months to make her happy and never annoying her too much - that means, a lot less spare time for me, less time for my studies, less time for my friends (some of them she doesn't stand...).

Lately she's been more and more sad, she often thinks I'm going to leave her alone (not true of course), and that created a lot of trouble because she's always a bit upset when I do something without her. But I'm happy with her, and don't want to hurt her feelings because deep inside I know she's a really good person.

Anyway, my friends are really saddened to see me, because from the outside things are not looking good and they want me to be happy as much as it's possible. And today my parents talked to me about her for a good while, basically saying same things as my friends ("ask yourself the good questions", "are you really happy in this relationship", "she's slowly taking you from your friends" etc etc etc).

I'm kind of depressed right now because I really don't know whether I'm happy or not. I know I don't want to break up with her but in the same time I know that's not a perfectly "sane" relationship, especially given the way she just can't stand me doing other things than being with her, or the way she blames me for almost everything (especially the feelings of loneliness she's having lately).

I'm a desperate optimist and I'm pretty sure things will get better and better with time but I'm starting to have doubts and I know that's no sign of well-being in a relationship.

Sorry for the long post but it's cool to freely speak about that here (because I don't even know how to engage such a conversation with her...)

TL;DR : i'm fucking lost.

  On 3/6/2016 at 1:45 PM, StocKo said:

Relationship problems : been with my gf for a year and a half now, great girl, but sometimes she suddenly burst into rage for no particular reason. I learnt to adapt myself to this and been trying my best for months to make her happy and never annoying her too much - that means, a lot less spare time for me, less time for my studies, less time for my friends (some of them she doesn't stand...).

 

Lately she's been more and more sad, she often thinks I'm going to leave her alone (not true of course), and that created a lot of trouble because she's always a bit upset when I do something without her. But I'm happy with her, and don't want to hurt her feelings because deep inside I know she's a really good person.

 

Anyway, my friends are really saddened to see me, because from the outside things are not looking good and they want me to be happy as much as it's possible. And today my parents talked to me about her for a good while, basically saying same things as my friends ("ask yourself the good questions", "are you really happy in this relationship", "she's slowly taking you from your friends" etc etc etc).

 

I'm kind of depressed right now because I really don't know whether I'm happy or not. I know I don't want to break up with her but in the same time I know that's not a perfectly "sane" relationship, especially given the way she just can't stand me doing other things than being with her, or the way she blames me for almost everything (especially the feelings of loneliness she's having lately).

 

I'm a desperate optimist and I'm pretty sure things will get better and better with time but I'm starting to have doubts and I know that's no sign of well-being in a relationship.

 

Sorry for the long post but it's cool to freely speak about that here (because I don't even know how to engage such a conversation with her...)

 

TL;DR : i'm fucking lost.

Don't sacrifice yourself for someone else's problems. You're not her psychologist/psychiatrist and when a relationship borders on that theme it usually doesn't work out. That or people spend the rest of their miserable lives together then die.

You don't have to hold grudge, resent or her for it, or even be nasty about the whole thing. Just make it very, very clear that you need space to continue bettering yourself (uni, friendships). I think sometimes significant others in this situation end up respecting the other party more for it, that they made a decision and went for it when things were going south.

Personally i've been rejected really fucking hard for being mental poison, and it wasn't until the other person told me to fuck off and never talk to them again did I re-evaluate what my behavior was doing to them. It actually helped me better myself and realize I wasn't taking care of me.

But I don't know her and I don't know any more than your post so keep that in mind..

  On 3/6/2016 at 12:47 PM, ThatSpanishGuy said:

lol i fucking love tonetta!!

i'd totally hang out with that dude and dance with my wang out

  On 3/6/2016 at 3:04 PM, maitake said:

Personally i've been rejected really fucking hard for being mental poison, and it wasn't until the other person told me to fuck off and never talk to them again did I re-evaluate what my behavior was doing to them. It actually helped me better myself and realize I wasn't taking care of me.

 

But I don't know her and I don't know any more than your post so keep that in mind..

 

Wow you're being hard with yourself ! Good for you that you've been warned and evolved the right way :)

The problem is, I don't have the feeling my girlfriend will ever change...I do still believe she will, yet nothing ever changed, and it's eventually getting worse and worse.

I also already told her that I needed more time for me, my hobbies (not to mention uni of course) but it was like trying to pee into a violin...

girls ain't easy!!!

Relationships.. more like relationshits, amirite